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In 2013, a senior university administrator where I worked “joked” that - to garner more attention to our research - my team should imprison me & the 1 other woman in a basement. This was the same week in 2013 that national news focused on the 3 female victims kidnapped, abused & imprisoned in an Ohio house for over a decade. (https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ariel_Castro_kidnappings)

This person was a former political appointee now at the university. Everyone went silent, but no one responded.

in reply to Sheril Kirshenbaum

Huh, intresting... IMO there is an item missing in the 2nd graph... and a few more graphs.
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in reply to Sheril Kirshenbaum

Urgh, but it was "fine", he was "only joking," he's "one of the good guys", obviously. 😬
in reply to Sheril Kirshenbaum

in the initial context I see how this is about men, but I believe the graph is applying to "persons".

Also courage to take action depends on context (geographic, temporal, physical, psychological).

I myself intervened is some situations but in many more I did not feel strong enough from a point of view or another.

in reply to Sheril Kirshenbaum

people of any gender can _possibly_ have dark triad personality types.
in reply to Sheril Kirshenbaum

While I do tend to think predation (and shіttу behaviour) is an unfortunate fact of life, I will still intervene anyway because that is not an excuse for (or to be) predatory, shіttу behaviour.
in reply to Sheril Kirshenbaum

Do you have a source for this very useful graph please? I’d like to share it. If the source is you, I’ll share directly your post 😀.
in reply to Sheril Kirshenbaum

And when we don't laugh, we're accused of having no sense of humor...
in reply to Sheril Kirshenbaum

😬 ..and that graphic really resonates! That admin was WOEFULLY awkward and just..thoughtless? Insensitive, sure, but..an absolute *creep*? I know how it feels to be in rooms like what you describe..I'm so sorry that you and your teammate were singled out like that AT THAT TIME(😱 ), I'm sorry it went unchallenged, and I'm sorry those WTF moments stay with us...
in reply to Sheril Kirshenbaum

my experience is men would rather the women minimise and pretend they're not upset than addressing the crappy male behaviour that makes working with them so exhausting and threatening
in reply to Sheril Kirshenbaum

Detailed #alt4you - my character limit means I’m going to have to split this into two toots, sorry! Part 1 of 2:
I’ve learned that a lot of guys visualize our social environment like this:
A wide bar is neatly segmented about 95% white and 5% dark red on the end, labeled “good men” on the left, “crazed evil men” on the right.
But it’s actually closer to this:

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