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in reply to 🏴‍☠️ the fediverse's favorite pirate radio DJ 🏴‍☠️

please don't defederate us over this btw lol. i rely on mutual aid from the fediverse to survive. by encouraging people to defederate us en masse you'd be actively attempting to isolate me from my support network. this could have DEADLY consequences if i'm no longer able to recieve the help i need. that's basically attempted murder with extra steps. and this isn't even that goddamn important
in reply to 🏴‍☠️ the fediverse's favorite pirate radio DJ 🏴‍☠️

cis people don't get misgendered when they do horrible shit so why is it suddenly okay with queer trans nonbinary people?

and fwiw YES i HAVE gone out of my way to look up the pronouns of people who've harassed me. people we've had to defederate. because it's basic fucking decency towards all queer people

in reply to 🏴‍☠️ the fediverse's favorite pirate radio DJ 🏴‍☠️

i'm not trying to take sides in the screencapped conflict btw. and for the people asking why i haven't made a post about david harassing Are0h... i'm not too familiar with that whole meta situation tbh. i just saw a lot of meta about misgendering people you don't like. and then i saw the source of it. and i felt i needed to take action because intentional misgendering is NEVER okay and defending it after the fact even moreso
in reply to 🏴‍☠️ the fediverse's favorite pirate radio DJ 🏴‍☠️

this is hardly an apology. it's a dismissal and minimization

https://h-i.social/@are0h/112963236242827326

in reply to 🏴‍☠️ the fediverse's favorite pirate radio DJ 🏴‍☠️

look all i want is for him to say he's sorry

like just an honest apology. "i'm sorry. i fucked up. i will do better"

but he has yet to actually say that. instead he just keeps talking in circles and trying to justify it. but this sort of behavior can never be justified if you care about trans people. period

in reply to 🏴‍☠️ the fediverse's favorite pirate radio DJ 🏴‍☠️

i'm not saying he needs to apologize to directly to david

just generally. to queer people on here. for like, being a big person in this community who did harm. who said some fucked up shit. willfully misgendering somebody normalizes the harassment queer people face every day. he has a big audience. people care about his opinions and listen what he has to say. that's why it's important

in reply to 🏴‍☠️ the fediverse's favorite pirate radio DJ 🏴‍☠️

also

even if you don't wanna open the other person's instance to check their pronouns. like you just cannot bear to bring yourself to

you should be defaulting to they/them for people whose pronouns you don't know anyway

ignorance is no excuse

in reply to 🏴‍☠️ the fediverse's favorite pirate radio DJ 🏴‍☠️

I have to disagree specifically about defaulting to they/them. Just don't refer to a person by pronouns and use that person's full name. Otherwise it's still misgendering unless that person is okay with they/them pronouns

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