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in reply to Mx Verda • • •THANK YOU. youtube.com/watch?v=hMUlp7T9ng…
Person: mental illness, trauma, abuse, neglect, etc.
Uncle Iroh, ffs: "That girl is crazy and needs to go down!"
Yes. Anyone, mentally ill / mistreated etc or not, can be dangerous to themself and others around them.
Literally anyone.
11:20 Except no, Ozai is another parent. He's more entrenched and beholden to this toxic culture, arguably, than Ursa. He still doesn't get to be absolved from being a bad father.
They can get a damn nanny, bring Iroh back, or just spend 2 seconds thinking about how to stop demanding carework from mothers as a matter of course.
I could see the flawed logic in "Azula is well-suited to this crappy environment, so I don't need to worry about her as much".
*Still* doesn't excuse treating her like a non-person.
Uncle Iroh to Zuko: "You alone can cleanse the sins of our family". A totally normal thing to say to a minor.
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in reply to Mx Verda • • •No one is 'bad'. Everyone is shaped by their situation and has incomplete influence over their situation.
Even if someone were completely 'bad', does that make them not human? Are their rights to be a person revoked?
If someone can feel any kind of pain, or have the same needs (food, water, organ maintenance in sleep, etc), then people in that world share stakes with that person.
People always need to cooperate, compromise, share, and make decisions. If nothing else, communication can always start from mutually understood context.
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in reply to Mx Verda • • •34:55 no, that could absolutely still be the greeting of someone who is scared. Especially if they are scared of what might happen if they don't respond so effusively.
Yes, people typically act in accordance with their emotions -- when they feel safe to do so. When they don't feel safe, however, some fall into "Fight, Flight, Fawn, Freeze / freak out" mode. This would be a fawn response, if so. Or: it might be how she actually feels. I don't know cuz I'm not in her head or those of the writers'.
37:15 yep. I can't imagine a cauldron more suited to breaking people than "constant demands for perfection".
If you can't win in any outcome, then why bother doing anything but what you want in the moment?
39:40 uh no. Don't show you "like" people by pushing them down after they do something you haven't.
40:15 yes, don't emphasise your problems to someone who may (think they) would want those problems. ALSO clear communication is important for everyone. AND excessive attention, "flattering" or not, is definitely a problem if the person experiencing it says it's a pr
... show more34:55 no, that could absolutely still be the greeting of someone who is scared. Especially if they are scared of what might happen if they don't respond so effusively.
Yes, people typically act in accordance with their emotions -- when they feel safe to do so. When they don't feel safe, however, some fall into "Fight, Flight, Fawn, Freeze / freak out" mode. This would be a fawn response, if so. Or: it might be how she actually feels. I don't know cuz I'm not in her head or those of the writers'.
37:15 yep. I can't imagine a cauldron more suited to breaking people than "constant demands for perfection".
If you can't win in any outcome, then why bother doing anything but what you want in the moment?
39:40 uh no. Don't show you "like" people by pushing them down after they do something you haven't.
40:15 yes, don't emphasise your problems to someone who may (think they) would want those problems. ALSO clear communication is important for everyone. AND excessive attention, "flattering" or not, is definitely a problem if the person experiencing it says it's a problem for them.
40:45 omgg that feeling when emotional awareness and caring, jfc. And yep, being expected to be perfect, assumed to be superior, or put on a pedestal are all ways to dehumanise someone.
"Oh I'd love a problem like that!" Would anyone? Being seen as someone you can never be? Being seen as above discomfort or worthy of help?
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in reply to Mx Verda • • •44:00 "But with Mei, how can it be about fear as a form of control?"
Because she can connect the dots about what Azula has done and may consider?
55:19 "You're definitely gonna die if you don't, so you might as well follow my orders" might also apply to her in the Fire Nation's patriarchal exploitative system of power.
56:00 yes, finally, we get into the rampant sexism.
1:03:30 omg yes. I wish I could figure out the most effective phrasing in a given moment. Feels like she understands people around her in order to guess how to best survive.
1:07:00 yup. If she had a set worldview, she'd have yet one more thing to be targeted. I think the InfoSec phrase is 'attack surface' or something. 1:08:00 you can use people's misconception of you against them.
1:13:00 nope. "This person could be useful to us" is a terrible reason to help someone. Help them because they are a person who exists, not because you see benefit for yourself.
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in reply to Mx Verda • • •1:24:40 YES! She's had shit in her life and impossible expectations, but she's still put in the work to solidify her skills. Omg yes, the solid creativity and adaptability. She's always had to be "better than [literally everything, including herself" so she has much less in common with other people who haven't.
Even within restrictive situations, you always have minor choices. Start with the tiny decisions and work up to bigger changes!
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in reply to Mx Verda • • •"If you make me realise my mental model of the world was even SLIGHTLY inaccurate, then I will hurt you."
It feels like they don't like examples of people making positive changes. Or it feels like a responsibility to choose (within personal abilities in situation), therefore they feel the knowledge as criticism.
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how do we trick capitalists into getting therapy?
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in reply to Mx Verda • • •18:48 I mean, he could just not be so insecure in his self-image as to feel geniunely threatened by a teenager's dim view of him.
20:30 "The court of the Fire Kingdom is one where anyone can be corrupted." I mean, yeah? Everyone has a level of torture (whatever causes them personal pain) beyond which they MUST reassess their values / narrative in order to survive.
Survival of the most adaptable, in a grim af way.
42:00 Uncle Iroh can do kind things and still have hurt people. Watching clips as an adult makes me appreciate this more. I still think Azula was written off far too quickly to be remotely fair to her as a person. AND I understand why Iroh would guard against the great potential harms she may cause.
48:00 "The power to cleanse the sins of the Fire Nation and bring balance to the world" is a hell of a heavy burden to place on a child, royal teenager or not.
... show moreI understand that he's trying to empower Zuko to understand the huge scope of actions he could take. I get that he does need to know the impacts he will always have. Still feels demanding tho.
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18:48 I mean, he could just not be so insecure in his self-image as to feel geniunely threatened by a teenager's dim view of him.
20:30 "The court of the Fire Kingdom is one where anyone can be corrupted." I mean, yeah? Everyone has a level of torture (whatever causes them personal pain) beyond which they MUST reassess their values / narrative in order to survive.
Survival of the most adaptable, in a grim af way.
42:00 Uncle Iroh can do kind things and still have hurt people. Watching clips as an adult makes me appreciate this more. I still think Azula was written off far too quickly to be remotely fair to her as a person. AND I understand why Iroh would guard against the great potential harms she may cause.
48:00 "The power to cleanse the sins of the Fire Nation and bring balance to the world" is a hell of a heavy burden to place on a child, royal teenager or not.
I understand that he's trying to empower Zuko to understand the huge scope of actions he could take. I get that he does need to know the impacts he will always have. Still feels demanding tho.
You can always make a different choice today compared to yesterday, and a prince will have more direct effects than a non-prince, sure. Any progeny is always also a person.
You have to trust people to know their options and choose as freely as they can. You can't know what someone "would" choose unless you know they could have chosen anything else. And even then!
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I get the feeling Uncle Iroh attempted suicide after his son's death. I could accept he might have "entered the Spirit World" in order to look for him, but this is a world where everyone knows resurrection doesn't happen. So he may have had a near death experience, or he may have sought a portal to travel there.
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in reply to Mx Verda • • •To show vulnerability to someone else is to communicate a lack of will to fight, or a sense of trust that they won't fight.
That starts a shared situation where you're coexisting. You then both have a motive to sustain this lower energy state.
You're not trusting a given person, exactly, but the idea that this event will not hurt you unduly.
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in reply to Mx Verda • • •Violence is a last resort to escape an untenable situation.
So advocating for stochastic terrorism (say, like every time there's a mass shooting or directing discomfort away from capitalism to random sub-groups) feels pretty relevant tbh.
Do I think people should die? No.
Do I think people who currently feel comfortable with conservative ideas are irredeemable? No.
Do I think it's at all surprising that Charlie Kirk advocated for exactly what he got? Not really, no.
Yep, a human is dead, his partner is upset, etc. (*and kids. I don't wish losing a parent on anyone.) Just like the people he argued didn't deserve understanding.
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in reply to Mx Verda • • •10:20 omg yes. In the UK, people keep asking when I 'automatically' got citizenship. The cheapest for the APPLICATION for UK citizenship was £1200. It's now £1700. I didn't have enough then and I don't now.
"But you've lived here for how long?" Evidently they've been reading Daily Mail / Sun nonsense for how long.
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