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Nobara 41 is here with many upgrades.

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Fedora-based Gaming Distro 'Nobara 41' Releases With a New Tweak Tool and a Change for NVIDIA Users

It's time to up your game on Linux with Nobara 41 in 2025. Let's check out the upgrades!

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MrGrumpyMonkey

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Just installed this as a dual boot option. This is one of the sleekest GUI's I've played with.

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It's FOSS

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@mrgrumpymonkey Agree 💯 The UI is 🔥

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Solar Anamnesis

11 months ago • •

Solar Anamnesis
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"Quadrantid Meteor Shower 2025."

youtube.com/watch?v=pBw0Z2yrQC…

#meteor

- YouTube

Enjoy the videos and music that you love, upload original content and share it all with friends, family and the world on YouTube.

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#meteor

"Taking responsibility for your actions means taking ownership of your mistakes and misjudgments, and your successes and milestones. It’s important to remember both sides of this equation. It’s easy to focus on the negative side of taking responsibility for your actions, but it’s just as important (and often equally challenging) to own up to the things you do well."
~ Liam Carnahan

That last part I had troubles with when editing an undergraduate literary magazine. When we had one of our first meetings of the year, I asked our club members what do you want to edit: poetry, short stories, essays, art? Immediately all the introverts said, just give me what nobody else is doing. Which is funny, because most of the English majors were introverts!

I then asked everyone to write down on a piece of paper their first and then their second choice of what they would like to edit. I started by sorting everyone by their first c

How To Take Responsibility for Your Actions (and Grow in the Process)

Taking responsibility for your actions is difficult, but it brings great rewards that last a lifetime. Here’s how you can start.

^{Liam Carnahan (The Vector Impact)}

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Kenny Chaffin

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Thanks for this....I'm trying to re-evaluate, re-boot, re-start after many years of virtually nothing (other than painting birds eh?)

I've been reading all my back issues of Ploughshares over the last few weeks, worked on my goals for the year, subscribed to a couple of magazines (Harpers and One Story) for the fiction. Going to work on my specific goals and put them into action to get my writing going again. I haven't submitted anything in years but will have that on the list as well as spending dedicated time on writing, marketing, study/learning etc.

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Muse

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@kennyc I'm kind of at a loss as to where to go next with my life. Maybe this is just as well, because I have plenty on my plate with the move. I will be teaching a community class in zine making this year. A friend is interested in speaking with me about creating an opensource edtech startup. After teaching digital literacy to primary and secondary teachers at a university, I've got a good idea as to what is missing in the market (largely integrity).

@Kenny Chaffin

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Kenny Chaffin

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I'm sure you'll figure it out! Just don't beat yourself up about it. Embrace the possibilities!

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Kenny Chaffin

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I've been in such a funk ... mostly because of Trump/politics and other personal stuff that I've just kind of floundered for years now...gonna try to break out of it....
(before it's too late 😀 )

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Muse

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@kennyc I think this will be the year we repeat the Serenity Prayer until it is burned into our brain cells. It is an excellent formulation for appropriate responsibility:

May we strengthen within ourselves the serenity to accept what cannot be changed, the courage to change what can be changed, and the wisdom to know the one from the other.

@Kenny Chaffin

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clarice overhere

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"Living one day at a time; enjoying one moment at a time; accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; taking this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it; that I may be reasonably happy in this life." the next verse (with religion omitted)

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clarice overhere

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tldr: find the common denominator and change that (hint: it's oneself)

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Solar Anamnesis

11 months ago • •

Solar Anamnesis
11 months ago • •

Sericho Pallasite.

NathanScientific, CC0, via Wikimedia Commons.

#meteorite

Muse

11 months ago • •

Muse
11 months ago • •

"Good morning! Just so you know: we aren't getting up!"

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David Croyle

11 months ago • •

David Croyle
11 months ago • •

#Caturday is a photo of my son's cat Yama so she doesn't feel neglected by me posting pictures of her new brother lately. 😀 #cat #CatsOfMastodon

A cow cat sits on a kitchen countertop next to some cookies, which are covered since she was sniffing at them. She has a bit of a "Who me?" expression on her funny face.

#cat #CatsOfMastodon #Caturday

Matthew 🖖

11 months ago • •

Matthew 🖖
11 months ago • •

#caturday #CatsOfMastodon

A black and white cat standing right next to the Lego black and white cat looking suspicious.

#CatsOfMastodon #Caturday

🇨🇦 Steve

11 months ago • •

🇨🇦 Steve
11 months ago • •

Dramatic lighting Caturday. #Caturday #OrangeCats #CatsOfMacedon #Cats

Orange and white cat on couch, partly in sunlight

#cats #Caturday #orangecats #catsofmacedon

Catherine Schmidt

11 months ago • •

Catherine Schmidt
11 months ago • •

Lilly says she is more important than a puzzle.
#Cats #Caturday #CatsOfMastodon #catsoffediverse #CatsOfPixelfed #Cat #puzzle

My grey haired husband, high forehead, round face with a groomed thick mustache sitting back to large window. At dark wood table trying to sort puzzle pcs. Lilly, tabby and white crammed into and on top of the pcs in the box getting loved. She overflows the sides, head tilted up as Larry does her bidding.

#cats #cat #CatsOfMastodon #Caturday #catsofpixelfed #puzzle #catsoffediverse

Tom Gauld

11 months ago • •

Tom Gauld
11 months ago • •

My new year’s resolution generator for @theguardian.com. Let me know what you get!

Title: Still haven't made a new year's resolution? Let us help you generate one!

Image: a diagram which asks you to input “The year of your birth added to the number of pets in your home”, “The number of days in the current month plus your shoe size” and “The sum of the first three digits in your telephone number” which will seemingly make a random resolution but actually always* makes “support your local bookshop”.

*Unless you have size 68 shoes or a negative number of pets or some other nonsense in which case you will get the silly outcome you deserve.

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Moha

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@tomgauld.bsky.social@bsky.brid.gy
Support a local bookshop?

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Liam @ GamingOnLinux 🐧🎮

11 months ago • •

Liam @ GamingOnLinux 🐧🎮
11 months ago • •

The Awesome Games Done Quick Humble Bundle is a good deal not to be missed gamingonlinux.com/2025/01/the-…

#SteamDeck #LinuxGaming #Gaming #PCGaming

The Awesome Games Done Quick Humble Bundle is a good deal not to be missed

Another great deal here for you with the Speedrunning with Awesome Games Done Quick Humble Bundle. Some good compatibility across Linux desktop and Steam Deck.

^{Liam Dawe (GamingOnLinux)}

#gaming #linuxgaming #SteamDeck #pcgaming

codfather #FBPE

11 months ago • •

codfather #FBPE
11 months ago • •

pixelfed

11 months ago • •

pixelfed
11 months ago • •

Happy Weekend Fedi!

We've just shipped a few updates!

- Fixed IG Import
- Fixed OAuth (most masto apps should work now)
- WebGL powered photo filters (thanks @taye)
- Merged hundreds of new translations, please submit them via translate.pixelfed.org
- Several federation fixes

We'll be tagging a new version soon!
Take care ✨

@taye

It's FOSS

11 months ago • •

It's FOSS
11 months ago • •

Well, don't hold back. 😃 🐧

#linux

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Xenia :tranarchy_punk_nonbinary_wartime: 🇵🇸 :yellow:

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LFS

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It's FOSS

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@gettie 🔥

@gettie@fedi.catto.garden

It's FOSS

11 months ago • •

It's FOSS
11 months ago • •

Every so often, it’s the little things that make a big impact. 👇

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I Discovered This Tiny Feature in Ubuntu 24.04 and I Love it

A tad bit of improvement to my organized computing life.

^{Abhishek Prakash (It's FOSS)}

Grantscherm

11 months ago • •

Grantscherm
11 months ago • •

"Ziege versteht kein Italienisch".

Moha

11 months ago • •

Moha
11 months ago • •

Happy #caturday ! 🐱

#Caturday

Muse

11 months ago • •

Muse
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First heatwave of 2025 engulfs Australia's south-east while monsoon and cyclones mysteriously missing in action

2025 is opening with a broad heatwave stretching through the heart of Australia, continuing a pattern of exceptional heat which included the nation's hottest spring on record, and third hottest December on record.

Today and tomorrow it is getting up to around the 39C mark.

First heatwave of 2025 engulfs Australia's south-east while monsoon and cyclones mysteriously missing in action

Temperatures across south-east states are predicted to soar up to 12C above the January average, while the staple summer monsoon is nowhere to be seen in the tropics.

^{Tom Saunders (ABC News)}

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Andrew Pam

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Just today the Google Home switched to saying "38.4 degrees in Nillumbik Shire", so something apparently got updated somewhere. 😀

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clarice overhere

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@Muse haha! it thought you lived under a bridge?? hexcuse moi, Google Home!

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11 months ago • •

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I love the comment someone made about this Japanese sign: "Still trying to determine if this is a list of available amenities or the names of alternative rock bands that have stayed here." I'm also delighted to know that the sheep are comfortable and the dolphins are clean!

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juliadream

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I have a bed shark from my days in Japan.. Lovely and cuddly

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Kenny Chaffin

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Ha!

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Muse

11 months ago • •

Muse
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This is a bath powder found in a Japanese hotel...
I AM SO USING IT!!!

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Muse

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Bring on the monkeys!!!!

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Sheril Kirshenbaum

11 months ago • •

Sheril Kirshenbaum
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My mom brought my old Caboodle to Thanksgiving & I finally got around to opening it.

Check out the old Swatch watches that my brother and I wore in the late 80s or early 90s! If the plastic wasn’t cracked I’d totally start wearing mine again.

An old hot pink caboodle with 80s or 90s watches & assorted items.

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Sim

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I had the protector for mine that was like a large rubber band that stretched across the middle of the watch face.

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Sabaah Z Jauhar-Rizvi

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swatch watches!!!❤️

It's FOSS

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It's FOSS
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Explore last year’s most interesting FOSS Android apps.

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These Are The Most Useful FOSS Android Apps I Discovered in 2024

It would be a shame if you had an Android smartphone without some of these interesting open source apps in 2024. Try them out!

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Martin Thornton

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As an avid hiker, Trail Sense was an absolute godsend.

github.com/kylecorry31/Trail-S…

GitHub - kylecorry31/Trail-Sense: An Android app that uses your phone's sensors to assist with wilderness treks or survival situations.

An Android app that uses your phone's sensors to assist with wilderness treks or survival situations. - kylecorry31/Trail-Sense

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It's FOSS

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@_mosso Looks interesting!

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AppleInsider

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In a bid to gain favor with the president-elect, Apple CEO Tim Cook has contributed $1 million of his personal finances to the inauguration fund.
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Apple CEO Tim Cook personally invested $1 million in Trump's inauguration

^{Wesley Hilliard (AppleInsider)}

Muse

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Muse
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The author of this is a freelance content provider and an English major (go English majors!). This is on the Vector Impact site in order to attract more views. HOWEVER, he has some genuinely insightful things to say.

How To Take Responsibility for Your Actions (and Grow in the Process)

Liam Carnahan

I’ve written lots of articles on this blog, giving out what I hope has been useful life advice. But of all the advice I’ve given, this topic—how to take responsibility for your actions—is one of the most challenging for me, personally.

I don’t think I’m alone in that struggle, either. Owning up to things you’ve done wrong and mistakes you’ve made does not come naturally for most people. Usually it gets tied up in feelings of shame (more on that later).

But if you can fight through the awkwardness and discomfort, your life will change for the better in

How To Take Responsibility for Your Actions (and Grow in the Process)

Liam Carnahan

But if you can fight through the awkwardness and discomfort, your life will change for the better in the long run.

This is not a skill you can pick up in one sitting. To be honest, you’ll likely be working on it for your entire life.

But that’s just the first hard truth you’ll have to swallow if you want to learn to take personal responsibility. And buckle up—I have seven more coming in this article.

What does it mean to take responsibility for your actions?

Taking responsibility for your actions means taking ownership of your mistakes and misjudgments and your successes and milestones.

It’s important to remember both sides of this equation. It’s easy to focus on the negative side of taking responsibility for your actions, but it’s just as important (and often equally challenging) to own up to the things you do well.

When you take start taking responsibility for your life, you’ll be doing things like this:

~ Apologizing when you offend or hurt someone
~ Admitting to mistakes without being asked
~ Being honest about past mistakes you’ve made and what you learned
~ Listening to others’ feedback on what is and isn’t your responsibility
~ Talking openly about big wins at work and in your personal life
~ Graciously accepting praise and compliments for your accomplishments

Not easy stuff. But learning how to do it without too much anguish can have major benefits for your life in the long run.

What happens when you start taking responsibility for your life

What are the benefits of taking responsibility for your actions? Here’s what will happen, with examples to paint a clear picture.

You gain a deeper understanding of your true self

Taking responsibility for your actions requires a lot of self-reflection. You must continually assess what’s going on in your life and investigate your role in the bigger picture. By doing this, you are learning more about who you are and what you want in life.

Example: The Typos

You’ve been collaborating on a presentation with some of your colleagues. When it comes time to show the slides to your client, there are numerous typos on the slides you worked on. Your gut instinct is to keep your head down since no one on your team can remember who worked on which slides. But instead, you decide to own up and take responsibility.

Before you come clean, you take a moment to reflect on what happened. You remember feeling rushed when you made the slides. You weren’t paying much attention in the meeting about the presentation and must have missed how important it was.

You come clean and make a promise to your colleagues and yourself to be more attentive and pay closer attention to detail. You’ve learned these are some of the areas you can work on—a realization that gives you a chance to become a better person with improved skills that can help you get ahead in life.

You develop empathy, which opens you up to new experiences

To learn how to take responsibility for your actions, you’ll have to recognize and resist the urge to throw the blame on others when things go sideways.

The only way to do this is by developing empathy for the folks around you—when something bad happens, you must put yourself in other people’s shoes. Examine the situation from their perspective and consider how you and everyone else involved is feeling.

Empathy helps you build stronger connections with people who are different from you, and as a result, you’ll get new experiences and perspectives that are worth gold.
Example: The Bad Joke

You’re hanging out with a group of people after class one day—some people you consider close friends, others you don’t know well. At some point, you make a joke that your friends all laugh at, but a few of the folks you don’t know well don’t crack a smile. In fact, a few of them look downright angry.

Immediately you feel defensive. You have thoughts like, “They’re being too sensitive” or “They don’t get my sense of humor.”

Then you hit pause. You reflect on why they may not be laughing. Perhaps their life experiences give them a different perspective on the joke.

Instead of laughing and moving on, you put your hands up and say, “I’m sorry, that was a thoughtless comment.”

That simple statement is an honest apology, and instead of the conversation moving on while people are still annoyed at you, you’ve opened up room for discussion. A few of the people in the group share why they found it unfunny, explaining how it made them feel.

You learn from them as you listen openly and get to see a glimpse into how your new acquaintances approach life. You’ve laid the groundwork for deeper relationships, and you’re far less likely to put your foot in your mouth again in the same way.

You strengthen trust and relationships

You probably know someone who is really bad at taking responsibility for their actions. They always blame someone else or make a flimsy excuse. Do you trust that person? Would you go to them in an emergency? Probably not. People take note when you’re unable to take responsibility—but when you do it often and openly, they trust you so much more.
Example: The Anniversary

It hits you as you’re walking out of work—today is your two-year anniversary with your partner. You completely forgot, and you haven’t planned anything or purchased a gift.

You’re supposed to meet your partner in 30 minutes. You think about what you could do—perhaps a trip to the grocery store for some flowers and a card? Try your luck at a restaurant and pretend you have a reservation?

No—you screwed up and you’re learning to take responsibility for your actions. So once you meet up with your partner, you say, “I’m really sorry about this, but I forgot today was our anniversary until just now. I don’t have anything planned, but I still want to spend the rest of the day with you.”

Your partner is hurt and upset, but you end up having a good night once the initial shock wears off—especially when you show your partner that you’ve added two calendar reminders for all your anniversaries going forward. You put a bow on top by giving them a gift later in the week—one that shows them how much you love them, and how sorry you are for hurting their feelings.

Your partner now knows that you won’t hide things, lie, or gaslight them when you’ve messed up. They know you’ll own up and apologize, which means they trust you to be honest and straightforward with them. That’s what good relationships are founded on.

You gain more ownership and autonomy

Owning up to your responsibilities gives you more control over the outcome of your actions and how you’ll behave in the future. You don’t have to hide from your mistakes or play down your successes—instead, you take responsibility for them, learn from them, and use them to push yourself forward.
Example: The Sculpture

After weeks of hard work, you’ve just finished a sculpture that you’re really proud of. You’re finally ready to step away. As you’re leaving the pottery studio, you hear two people discussing your sculpture, commenting on how much they admire it.

Your instinct tells you to slink away quietly. You don’t want to appear cocky or obnoxious. But you fight back against that instinct—people are admiring something you’ve done well, and it’s time to take responsibility for your actions.

You step forward, smile, introduce yourself as the artist, and thank them for their kind words about your work. This opens up a conversation where they give you feedback, ask you questions, and even suggest working together on something.

You’ve made new friends, gotten important insights into your work, and, most importantly, gained confidence in your skills as an artist. Now, you have more control over your art—you have more connections to pursue at the studio and more inspiration for even more amazing sculptures in the future. That’s a lot more autonomy than you would have had if you simply went home without saying a word.

You keep anxiety levels at bay

When you think about taking responsibility for your actions, you may feel a flutter of anxiety (which is totally natural).

But take it from me, as someone who knows what chronic anxiety feels like: Owning your actions is one of the best ways to reduce anxiety long-term.

If you fail to hold yourself accountable for your actions, you are essentially bottling them up. You keep them to yourself, and are likely to beat yourself up over your actions internally (cue the anxiety).

By owning up to your responsibilities, you’re taking the burden off yourself. Instead of carrying the anxiety around and beating yourself up with it, you’re releasing it so you can move on.
Example: The Gift

During the holidays, you’re visiting with family and exchanging gifts. A cousin gives you a present that you don’t really like—and you show it. You barely mutter “Thank you,” and quickly move on to the next present.

Later at home when you’re winding down, it hits you: You were rude and unappreciative. You cringe and start to feel anxious. You think of your cousin, wondering how they feel and if they’re upset with you.

You want to just forget it and move on, but you’re on a mission to start taking responsibility for your actions. So instead of carrying that ball of anxiety, you bite the bullet and call your cousin to apologize.

They assure you they hardly noticed, and you get a chance to thank them graciously for the gift. You get to have a nice conversation, and the incident is water under the bridge—a much better outcome than long-term anxiety and a wedge between you and your cousin.

7 hard truths that will help you start taking responsibility for your actions

Taking responsibility isn’t easy for anyone. People who make it seem easy have already put in the work and accepted some difficult truths about life.

If you want to join their ranks, here are some of the hard pills you’ll have to swallow to start taking personal responsibility like a pro.

Life isn’t fair, and the universe doesn’t owe you anything

At some point in life, you’re going to come up against some extreme unfairness. You won’t get into the college you want. You’ll lose a loved one too soon. You’ll get ghosted by someone you were kind to or betrayed by someone you trusted.

It happens to everyone and different times and to varying degrees. In the face of injustice, it’s easy to let resentment consume you. You may have thoughts like, “Why do bad things always happen to me?” or “Why can’t I have an easy life like my sister?”

But this kind of negative dwelling doesn’t get you anywhere. Blaming the universe isn’t helpful—the universe simply doesn’t care. Comparing yourself to others only breeds resentment and puts distance between you and the people in your orbit.

Once you accept that unfair things will happen to you whether you want them to or not, it becomes much easier to take the bad things in life in stride. Sure, they’ll still make you depressed or frustrated. But once you stop blaming the cosmos or other people, you can focus on righting the wrongs and overcoming the challenges.

You may be the root cause of your biggest problems

If you seem to be coming up against challenges and problems everywhere you go, I have two words for you: common denominator.

Though life is indeed unfair, if you are experiencing negative patterns in your life (like losing jobs, overdrawing your bank account, having bad first dates, etc.), it’s time to consider whether you might be the problem.

No one wants to believe they’re the cause of problems in life. But often, if you take a moment to examine a recurring situation, you’ll find that the biggest obstacle standing in your way is yourself.

Maybe you are frequently late to work because you oversleep.

Maybe you spend too much money eating out when you could cook.

Maybe you talk about yourself too much on first dates.

It hurts to acknowledge these shortcomings, but you won’t be able to improve them until you accept that they’re contributing to your issues. Once you can accept that (and forgive yourself—more on that later), you’re paving the way for self-improvement and a resolution to your issues.

You need to work on your listening skills

Self-reflection is necessary if you want to take responsibility for your actions, but you also must learn how to take on feedback from others and empathize with them (as I mentioned above).

You won’t be able to achieve this if you aren’t an active listener—someone who is engaged and attentive when listening to others (rather than thinking about what you want to say next).

Active listening is a big enough topic, I could write an entire article on it. In fact, I have, and it’s a good companion piece to the article you’re reading now.

No one is coming to your rescue. You have to take action

When we’re young, it’s easy to feel like everything will be taken care of by the adults in our lives—parents, relatives, teachers, even kind strangers.

For many, leaving the comfort of home is a harsh awakening. Suddenly, there’s no one there to help if you run out of money, get in trouble, or face a tough moral situation.

This can lead to paralysis. You can sit with your problems, waiting for some magical person to come along and solve the issue for you.

But here’s the truth: No one is coming. It’s up to you to take responsibility and take action. Otherwise, you’ll stay in the same place forever.

Remember that sometimes, taking action means reaching out to family, friends, or professionals for help. It can also look like doing your research on solutions, or confronting someone, or being honest with yourself. Put in the effort, whatever it is, because no one else is going to do it for you.

You can’t run away from guilt and shame (and it’s vital to know the difference)

Guilt and shame both play a role in how well you take responsibility for your actions. And though many use the words interchangeably, there’s an important difference:

"Shame is a focus on self. Guilt is a focus on behavior."
Brene Brown

Here’s an example. Let’s say you were washing dishes and accidentally broke your roommate’s favorite vase. This feels terrible, and depending on where you are in life, you’ll feel either guilt or shame.

Shame Response: “I’m such an idiot. I’m always dropping things, and my roommate probably hates me for it already.”

Guilt Response: “Oops. I dropped that vase because I wasn’t paying attention. I need to be more attentive when handling important things like this.”

It may seem like both responses here are examples of taking responsibility. But really, the shame response puts blame where it doesn’t belong. You are blaming who you are as a person—which really has nothing to do with what happened. You aren’t a stupid person, and it’s highly unlikely your roommate hates you for simply breaking a dish.

Feeling shame will also make you want to run from the problem rather than own up to it.

On the other hand, the guilt response acknowledges what behaviors caused the accident. Behaviors can be changed and improved, keeping you on track to becoming the person you want to be and loving the person you are.

You won’t succeed without being kind, patient, and forgiving to yourself

There’s been a lot of tough love in this article, but now I want to touch on something a bit softer.

Learning to take responsibility is painful. You will feel shame despite your best efforts. You will have difficult conversations. You will lose trust before you gain it.

To make it through these challenges and come out the other side better off, you must be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to screw up, and be proud that you are now owning up to it when you do.

If you make the same mistake twice, even after setting your mind to fixing the problem, forgive yourself. These things take time.

Patience and self-empathy will get you there in the end, and soon you’ll be a master at taking responsibility for your life.

There is a lot about your life that you can’t control

It is nice to think that your destiny lies within your own hands. We are often told as young people that our actions and choices will define our lives.

This is true, to an extent. But it’s also true that there are lots of factors that are completely out of your control, and they will have a big impact on your life.

These factors can be big or small, positive or negative (and usually somewhere in between). Where you live, the makeup of your family, political and economic climates, your gender, race, and sexuality—these are just a few of the factors that will impact the course of your life. And there’s not much you can do to change them.

But if there is one thing you can change, it’s how you react and respond to the circumstances of your life. You can choose to hold yourself accountable. And though it’s not easy, taking responsibility for your actions can give you a greater sense of control and autonomy.

Most people find it challenging to start taking responsibility for their actions. In fact, there are people who never develop this skill, because it’s so hard!

But those who learn to gracefully own their actions stand to gain a lot in life. If you want to count yourself among the lucky people who have deeper relationships, more personal freedom, and richer experiences—start taking responsibility for your actions.

Passive Listening Is Holding You Back | The Vector Impact

Want a richer life? You need to leave passive listening behind. Build better relationships personally and professionally with these tips.

^{Liam Carnahan (The Vector Impact)}

🇨🇦 Steve

11 months ago • •

🇨🇦 Steve
11 months ago • •

The not so rare double cat loaf. #Cats #OrangeCats #TuxedoCats #CatsOfMastodon

A Tubby tuxedo cat loafing on a sofa arm, an orange and white cat loafing on a windowsill in the background.

#cats #CatsOfMastodon #orangecats #TuxedoCats

Muse

11 months ago • •

Muse
11 months ago • •

like this

BrianKrebs

11 months ago • •

BrianKrebs
11 months ago • •

As I feared, it looks like the reason I will create a Bsky account is mainly to tell others that the accounts pretending to me are not.

in reply to BrianKrebs

Eugen Rochko

in reply to BrianKrebs • 11 months ago • •

You can use the bridge with your Mastodon account for that. I do that. Just follow @bsky.brid.gy to opt in.

@Bridgy Fed for Bluesky

Marta

11 months ago • •

Marta
11 months ago • •

Para quienes estáis con #salvarpaquita: este artículo de @ntnsndr (@medlab) cuenta cuáles son las claves para construir un modelo de gobernanza de una comunidad online y comparte recursos para ayudar a hacerlo. Es interesantísimo. colorado.edu/lab/medlab/2024/1…

How to Build Governable Spaces for Online Communities

By Kike Arnaiz, via Stocksy United I’ve seen it again and again: A group gets started, gets working on something good an important, and then falls apart because

^{Media Economies Design Lab}

#salvarpaquita @Nathan Schneider @Media Economies Design Lab

Liam @ GamingOnLinux 🐧🎮

11 months ago • •

Liam @ GamingOnLinux 🐧🎮
11 months ago • •

Valve set Palworld back as Steam Deck Playable but with multiple listed problems gamingonlinux.com/2025/01/valv…

#Palworld #SteamDeck #LinuxGaming #Linux

Valve set Palworld back as Steam Deck Playable but with multiple listed problems

It's been a strange few days for Palworld on Steam Deck. Originally it was rated Steam Deck Playable, then after the major Feybreak update Valve set it as Steam Deck Unsupported and now it's back to Steam Deck Playable again.

^{Liam Dawe (GamingOnLinux)}

#linux #linuxgaming #SteamDeck #Palworld

~julienxx

11 months ago • •

~julienxx
11 months ago • •

New blog post: a little walk-through remaking my personal website with #emacs and #org-mode julienblanchard.com/posts/buil…

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^{julienblanchard.com}

#emacs #org

Nextcloud 📱☁️💻

11 months ago • •

Nextcloud 📱☁️💻
11 months ago • •

🪄 Take control of your documents with the Paperless-ngx integration in Nextcloud!

Scan, store, and collaborate on documents with centralized file management and workflow automation.

Learn how Paperless-ngx and Nextcloud improve your workflows!

paperlesszone.com/blog/paperle…

Katie Notopoulos

11 months ago • •

Katie Notopoulos
11 months ago • •

Everyone’s talking about how the AI bots made by Meta are bad, but just a reminder you can make your own Meta AI chatbot right inside Messenger and there’s definitely no problems there

Photo by Katie Notopoulos on January 03, 2025. May be a doodle of 2 people and text.

Photo by Katie Notopoulos on January 03, 2025. May be a Twitter screenshot of phone and text.

Photo by Katie Notopoulos on January 03, 2025. May be a Twitter screenshot of ‎text that says '‎11:09 بر < Luigi Al by Katie Notopoulos o+ Your Al is in review. You'll be notified when the process is complete. IULVUL runy like the ones Health Care for America Now did during CA debates- or even a march like Michael Moore did for his documentary Sicko? What's S the boldest move you'd make? Well.... have an idea. But I'm a little afraid to tell you Your secret is safe with me. Spill it -isi it brilliant, daring, or maybe even a little crazy? Promise you won't judge me?0 Absolute promise- judgment silenced, curiosity activated! Tell me! Aa‎'‎.

Photo by Katie Notopoulos on January 03, 2025. May be a Twitter screenshot of text.

Liam @ GamingOnLinux 🐧🎮

11 months ago • •

Liam @ GamingOnLinux 🐧🎮
11 months ago • •

Fanatical's Monster Hunter Bundle returns to prepare you for Monster Hunter Wilds gamingonlinux.com/2025/01/fana…

#MonsterHunter #SteamDeck #PCGaming #Linux #Gaming

Fanatical's Monster Hunter Bundle returns to prepare you for Monster Hunter Wilds

Need some more Monster Hunter games? Fanatical have brought back their Build your own Monster Hunter Bundle for you to fill up your collection again.

^{Liam Dawe (GamingOnLinux)}

#linux #gaming #SteamDeck #pcgaming #monsterhunter

Venya (he/him/dude) 🇺🇦

11 months ago • •

Venya (he/him/dude) 🇺🇦
11 months ago • •

Another stupidly long blog post. If I could do these more than once a month, they wouldn't have to be so lengthy, I bet.

Topics: #MuseScore, #guitar, #macOS, #ProTools, #Inkscape, and #RadioFreeFedi

venya.soundslike.pro/blog/2025…

#GoHugo

Venya does sound - It is now 2025.

^{venya.soundslike.pro}

#MacOS #inkscape #guitar #radiofreefedi #musescore #protools #gohugo

in reply to Venya (he/him/dude) 🇺🇦

nebunez

in reply to Venya (he/him/dude) 🇺🇦 • 11 months ago • •

Have you ever heard of #CDLC format for guitar “sheet” music? It’s been on my TODO list to look into for months, but reading your post brought it to mind. It’s basically what Rocksmith used, and there are players and ways to write your own.

customsforge.com/ is supposed to be a good resource.

CustomsForge - Rocksmith 2014 Remastered CDLC

A website dedicated to custom songs for Rocksmith 2014 Remastered.

^{CustomsForge - Rocksmith 2014 Remastered CDLC}

#cdlc

Sheril Kirshenbaum

11 months ago • •

Sheril Kirshenbaum
11 months ago • •

Alcohol consumption is the 3rd leading preventable cause of cancer.

Risk communication scientists have been talking about this for a long time, but it’s v interesting to see this as the top headline at NYT. It’s about time. nytimes.com/2025/01/03/health/… #science #health

#science #Health

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RenderB

in reply to Sheril Kirshenbaum • 11 months ago • •

It's also the one that isn't just socially acceptable, but actively pushed. We've stopped pretending that smoking is "cool", but drinking alcohol is something you "have to do as a real adult" in most cultures and media.

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peachfront

in reply to Sheril Kirshenbaum • 11 months ago • •

actually... we've known all this for decades

it's not news & it's distraction from the reality that the leading cause of the low life expectancy in the US is the paywall around health care

they also drink, drug, & smoke in Europe, where lifespans are much longer than the US

but why allow an American any small pleasure in their short, miserable life if an oligarch enjoys watching us die in misery?

Christine Lemmer-Webber

11 months ago • •

Christine Lemmer-Webber
11 months ago • •

Have you played Cirkoban yet? Have you gotten all the gems? davexunit.itch.io/cirkoban

Cirkoban by David Thompson, Juliana Sims, Christine Lemmer-Webber

Sokoban meets Wireworld!

^itch.io

I have played Cirkoban and gotten all gems (0%, 0 votes)
I have played Cirkoban, did not get all gems (20%, 4 votes)
I haven't played Cirkoban (80%, 16 votes)
I have my own custom build and levels of Cirkoban (0%, 0 votes)

20 voters. Poll end: 11 months ago

Liam @ GamingOnLinux 🐧🎮

11 months ago • •

Liam @ GamingOnLinux 🐧🎮
11 months ago • •

Marvel Rivals team issue a statement on recent bans for Steam Deck and macOS players gamingonlinux.com/2025/01/marv…

#MarvelRivals #SteamDeck #macOS #Linux #PCGaming

Marvel Rivals team issue a statement on recent bans for Steam Deck and macOS players

Recently it came to my attention that Marvel Rivals did a ban-wave for a whole bunch of players on macOS and some on Steam Deck (Linux) too. Now, their team have issued a statement on the situation.

^{Liam Dawe (GamingOnLinux)}

#linux #MacOS #SteamDeck #pcgaming #marvelrivals

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MudMan

in reply to Liam @ GamingOnLinux 🐧🎮 • 11 months ago • •

@gamingonlinux@mastodon.social Neat. Out of curiosity, what anticheat are they using? I don't remember off the top of my head

#pcgaming

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Liam @ GamingOnLinux 🐧🎮

in reply to MudMan • 11 months ago • •

@MudMan you may check on our page: gamingonlinux.com/anticheat/

Anti-Cheat Compatibility List for Steam Deck and Linux | GamingOnLinux

GamingOnLinux Anti-Cheat Compatibility List for Steam Deck and Linux

^{GamingOnLinux}

@MudMan

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Courtney Mertz

in reply to Liam @ GamingOnLinux 🐧🎮 • 11 months ago • •

I’m pretty glad that they are continuing to let people play this game outside of the Windows OS without any worries!

Liam @ GamingOnLinux 🐧🎮

11 months ago • •

Liam @ GamingOnLinux 🐧🎮
11 months ago • •

Grab some great VR titles from Fanatical: fanatical.com/en/pick-and-mix/… (partner link)

#VR

Build your own Best of Infinity VR Collection | Fanatical

^{www.fanatical.com}

#VR

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topi

in reply to Liam @ GamingOnLinux 🐧🎮 • 11 months ago • •

The Bethesda ones are basically unplayable without mods. How's the rest? Until You Fall was great.

Liam @ GamingOnLinux 🐧🎮

11 months ago • •

Liam @ GamingOnLinux 🐧🎮
11 months ago • •

Medal of Honor: Allied Assault open source remake new Beta gets lots of fixes gamingonlinux.com/2025/01/meda…

#MedalofHonorAlliedAssault #FPS #RetroGaming #PCGaming #OpenSource

Medal of Honor: Allied Assault open source remake new Beta gets lots of fixes

I'm genuinely looking forward to replaying through Medal of Honor: Allied Assault and the expansions thanks to the open source OpenMoHAA project that just put out a new Beta release.

^{Liam Dawe (GamingOnLinux)}