Introduction

With the ongoing attacks on trans rights in the United States, and especially on trans women such as myself, I have elected to move to the Netherlands. It will be an arduous process which I will document in this series, so that others who wish to emigrate from the United States may do the same with some guidance.

This post will list the steps I needed/need to take as of time of writing, March 28th, 2025 in order to move to the Netherlands, using the DAFT as a means to acquire residency.

The List

Finished

• Change my name and gender via court order

In-progress/Waiting

• Update my name and gender in birth certificate (waiting for a response to my application)

To-do

• ⚠️ Update my name and gender with Social Security
• Update my ID Card
• ⚠️ Get a Passport
• Get my birth certificate apostilled.
• Take a “holiday” to Amsterdam (Some time around August, 2025, or as soon as all the previous entries in this list are finished)
• Fill out the application and mail it to Dutch immigration service
• ⚠️ Find a place to live
• Make an appointment with the city of Amsterdam to get my citizen social service number
• Book a biometrics appointment with the Dutch immigration service
• Register a business with the chamber of commerce
• Get a business bank account
• Deposit my initial investment
• Get my opening balance sheet reviewed by an external expert
• Submit all supporting documentation to the immigration service
• Wait for my application to be processed

What I’m worried about

I am worried about quite a few of these, as indicated with a ⚠️. Let’s go over each of these and why I am worried about them.

Updating name and gender with social security, and getting a passport

I grouped these two together since these are both affected by the executive order which president Donald Trump enacted shortly after seizing state power. Since as of the time of writing, it is not possible to get my gender marker with either the Social Security Administration or the Passport office to be correct for me, I will have to make-do. If the situation changes, I will post an update in a new post as-soon as possible and link it here.

Finding a place to live

It is no secret that in Amsterdam, much like other cities across the world, there is an ongoing housing crisis. As-such, it may be difficult to find an apartment or house to rent, albeit not impossible. This is most likely the actual hardest part with moving, as would be expected with moving pretty much anywhere.

Will I Come Back?

No. Not under any circumstances. I consider the entire United States to be extremely dangerous to go to, whether for travel or for moving back, so unless something drastic changes, I don’t see myself ever moving back or even visiting.

Conclusion

Well, it looks like there’s still a lot to do, but at the very least, I have a plan all figured out, which is a good first step. Feel free to follow this blog in order to get further updates on where this journey of bureaucracy will take me. If you have any questions, feel free to send me a webmention, or if you got to this post through the fediverse or bluesky, you can leave a reply there and they will be sent as a webmention here as-well! Thank you for reading through this post to the end!

Hey trans fedi folks

We think our instance is having a federation or relay issue... or really not many people are using a hashtag.

We're pretty sure more trans people are recording their voice training progress under hashtags like:

#TransVoice #TransVoiceFriday #VoiceTraining etc.

... but whenever we do a search for the hashtag, mostly all we see are the posts on our instance. It seems to be an issue for all hashtags, which might be why directly searching for some doesn't give us many results 😞

We're currently signed up to these relays:

• https://relay.infosec.exchange/inbox
• https://relay.gay/inbox

Are there any specific ones you'd recommend, or should we just add ourselves to some of the biggest ones listed on this Relay List?

Failing that, are there any server side federation tweaks we admin could make ourselves or ask our host (FediMonster) to make? (We're on Glitch-SOC - v4.3.0-alpha.5+glitch.)

Any thoughts and suggestions welcome

#fedi #fediverse #Mastodon #GlitchSOC #AskFedi #federation #relays #HashtagSearch #FediAdmin #trans #transgender #queer #LGBTQ+ #LGBTQIA+ #LGBTQIA2S+

Happy Pride! Today, we’re digging into the roots of the fediverse – the many queer, trans, and non-binary people who helped build the Fediverse.

A (partial) queer, trans, and non-binary history of Mastodon and the fediverse

“way back, at the beginning of mastodon’s rise to what it is now, queer activists, be they just a stranger with a keyboard, new to the social media site, weighing in on a topic on the public timeline, or me, someone actively attempting to be the middle between the most vocal voices, and tangible, meaningful change through gargron’s code, and github focused writing and activity, people were queer. they were marginalized, to some extent. people who weren’t comfortable with the status quo, so we changed it.”

hoodieaidakitten, Mastodon’s Complicated Relationship with Queer Activism, July 2018

As a trans woman on the internet, my work with Mastodon has always been about more than just social media—it’s been about keeping people alive.

– Margaret KIBI, Fringe Mastodev – Part II, September 2018

“I cannot count the number of people who I’ve seen and followed…on Mastodon and then come and realize more things about their gender identity, their sexual orientation, their different community markers.”

David Wolfpaw, founder of the tech.lgbt Mastodon community, quoted in Can Mastodon be a Twitter Refuge for Marginalized Groups, November 2022

“Queer people built the Fediverse.”

Christine Lemmer-Webber, co-author of the ActivityPub standard that powers Mastodon and the fediverse, quoted in Mastodon—and the pros and cons of moving beyond Big Tech gatekeepers. In the article, Lemmer-Webber notes that four of the five authors of the ActivityPub standard identify as queer.

Ever since Mastodon started in 2016, queer, trans and non-binary people have helped build it and the interconnected web of decentralized social networks known as the “fediverse.” Today there are dozens or even hundreds of LGBTQ-focused instances,1 and even many of the instances that aren’t specifically for the community are welcoming. Which is good!

People telling the Mastodon origin story usually acknowledges the queer influence. Carl Miller’s Who commands the internet? (from 2018), for example, quotes Mastodon’s BDFL (Benevolent Dictator for Live) Eugen Rochko on the early growth:

“Queer people joined”, said Eugen, “and Furries. It comes in waves.”

Still, very few people I talk to know realize how extensive queer contributions have been – and how much tension there’s been around them. Mastodon: a partial history has a lot of quotes and links to first-person experiences, but they’re scattered throughout it – and it ends in late 2022. So to celebrate Pride, I figured I’d expand on that and also highlight a few of many areas where the impact continues today.

First, though, I want to emphasize that this is a partial history. A lot of people who have made major contributions aren’t here, either because they’d prefer not to be listed (and with queer, trans, and non-binary people under threat everywhere, who can blame them) – or just because I don’t know about them. The names of the people who have made the key contributions have been largely erased. As Sasha Costanza-Chock says in Design, power, and justice:

“[P]eople are often marginalized from the stories we hear about the creation of new tools. Social movements are often hotbeds of innovation, but their contributions aren’t always recognized.”

So my apologies to everybody who isn’t here, and if there are others who should be listed, please check with them if they want to be and if so ask them to let me know.

And speaking of marginalization …

“[T]he first thing that I want to make clear is that Mastodon has a history of being inhospitable to marginalized users.”

Dr. Johnathan Flowers discusses in The Whiteness of Mastodon

In The Whiteness of Mastodon Dr. Flowers focuses on Mastodon’s long history of whiteness and racism, also present in much of the broader fediverse. This marginalization impacts Black, Indigenous, and other queer, trans, and non-binary people or color as well; and many queer, trans, and non-binary people fall into other categories — disabled people, sex workers, people from the Global South — that are also largely excluded from Mastodon’s power structure. As Dr. Flowers highlights, many Mastodonians use the very positive contributions of queer people as a shield against critiques or discussions of the platform racism and overwhelming whiteness. Please don’t do that!

And despite all the major contributions they’ve made, queer, trans, and non-binary people of all colors have also been marginalized in Mastodon. The stories of their contributions are rarely told and when they are it’s rarely from a queer perspective, leading to the erasure I talked about above. And Mastodon and the fediverse have gotten big enough that there’s more and more money and other opportunities floating around. how much is going to queer, trans, and non-binary people? This is something that really needs to change going forward.

And it’s also something to keep in mind when thinking about the history of Mastodon and the fediverse, because it highlights how challenging the environment was for the people making these amazing contributions!

Mastodon’s early days

“When everyone joined there wasn’t per-post privacy or CWs or anything that people associate with Mastodon today. The new wave of queer users came up with, designed, pushed for, and implemented those features.”

– Shel Raphen, former Mastodon volunteer coordinator, project manager, and community manager, in Ana Valens’ Mastodon is crumbling — and many blame its creator (2019)

Rapid queer-led community innovation discusses Mastodon’s first major growth spurt culminating in the breakthrough month of April 2017. Here’s how I summarized it:

Mastodon in early 2017 was hella queer, and the queer volunteers who helped create Mastodon made an incredible amount of progress in the first half of the year

In Mourning Mastodon, Allie Hart links links to github artifacts for the implementation of locked accounts, private toots (as posts were called at the time recently), blocking, muting, and reporting from the time. Conent warnings (CWs) and instance blocking, a powerful technique helping admins and sites protec themselves from bad actors, was also driven by queer and trans people. As I said when discussing this in an April 2017 presentation on Transforming Tech with Diversity-Friendly Software, on open-source projects people can implement the functionality they want and need.

But as the titles of Mourning Mastodon and the followup Mourning What Now?!?!, it wasn’t all good. As Hart said,

“The recent influx of users to the platform has brought with it new contributors and an expanded revenue stream that has rendered the original nearly obsolete. Queer users could leave en masse without harming the project’s survivability, which means that the reciprocity of their relationship has been terminated — queer users still depend on the project, but the project no longer depends on its queer users.”

hoodieaidakitten has a similar perspective in Mastodon’s Complicated Relationship with Queer Activism

“things changed, because more and more people comfortable with the status quo followed. we queer activists rapidly became the subset that originally came, the marginalized. the minority.”

Things came to a head in The Battle of the Welcome Modal. Many new arrivals (including me) found Mastodon confusing in April 2017. As Valens describes Mastodon is crumbling — and many blame its creator, Shel Raphen – who was doing an outstanding job of project management in a very difficult situation – designed a welcome modal to help with onboarding. Rochko harshly criticized the design and made significant changes that Raphen “broke the pedagogy and curriculum built into the design of the onboarding modals,” which had been reviewed and approved by various other contributors.

Valens describes the incident as “A breaking point for the queer community” and that’s how I remember it too. On the other hand, flawed as it was, the welcome model was also successful, although not as much so as it would have been otherwise: it did in fact reduce a lot of confusion for new users. Unfortunately, progress stalled on onboarding after the Battle of the Welcome Modal, and it remains a problem today.2

Of course, queer people didn’t go away. Creatrix Tiara’s Mastodon 101: A Queer-Friendly Social Network You’re Gonna Like a Lot on Autostraddle later that year brought more queer users, and the number of LGBTQ+-focused instances continued to increase.

And innovation didn’t go away either.

In the private discussions with @bea … I explained that I had actually stopped doing Mastodon development, given my past history with it and the way it had treated its queer contributors. She responded that she had heard that a lot, thought it was sad, and was actually trying to pull together a fork of the software, as a space for queer devs who had been pushed out of mainline Mastodon development. Her focus, she said, was on trans women, and creating a safe place where their contributions would be heard.

Margaret KIBI’s Fringe Mastodev – Part III: Joining GlitchSoc,

The Glitch-soc fork (variant) of Mastodon continued to take the lead in introducing tools to protect users by implementing “local-only posts” in June 2017, an innovation that has since been adopted by other forks like Hometown and most other fediverse software (although still not by mainline Mastodon, so it’s not available on most large instances).3 Glitch-soc also was the first to implement user‐defined profile metadata, collapsible statuses, user controlled layout, and images inside CWs,. Today, Glitch-soc is the most widely-deployed Mastodon fork, and is used by hundreds of Mastodon instances.

Ongoing contributions – often without credit

Queer, trans, and non-binary people continue to make major contributions – often without being credited or acknowledged. A few examples:

• Artist Marcia X created the #FediBlock hashtag for admins and users to share information about instances spreading harassment and hate, and long-time Mastodonian Ginger immediately helped by spreading it to faer networks and normalizing its use. In 2022, this hashtag remains an extremely valuable resource. However, various “fediblock” sites and accounts have popped up over the years without any credit – or compensation – to the original creators.
• In May/June 2018, the initial implemention of trending hashtags – with no ability for site admins to turn the feature off – led to a firestorm of criticism from people who saw it as clashing with Rochko’s claim that Mastodon had “a focus on user experience and anti-abuse tools.” As maloki said, “You can’t have anti-abuse tools by actively creating tools that are very likely to be used for abuse, without consulting people who know and understand anti-abuse.” Cassian’s I left Mastodon yesterday and hoodieaidakitten’s Mastodon’s Complicated Relationship with Queer Activism have some additional discussion. The feature was eventually removed, and an improved implementation was released in 2019.
• August 2018’s Battle of Wil Wheaton highlighted the strength of Mastodon’s LGBTQ+ community in responding to the arrival of a celebrity who had caused a lot of harm to trans people. workingdog_’s Twitter thread provides important context ommitted from most mainstream narratives. Wheaton left the platform as a result, and Rochko posted that he was unhappy with how the situation was resolved. As Nolan Lawson discusses in Mastodon and the challenges of abuse in a federated system, the Battle of Wil Wheaton certainly highlighted the need for improvement in Mastodon’s moderation tools. Five years later, though, the moderation tools haven’t improved significantly.
• Solstice School is a free, online, interdisciplinary conference for the Fediverse, now in its fourth year, hosted by Scholar Social. Past topics include spiders, frugal computing, Afro-Indigenous phenomenology, and data (im)permanence; this year’s topics look just as interesting. As far as I can tell, though, none of the articles about academics exploring Mastodon or the fediverse have ever mentioned it.
• Volunteer moderators are the lifeblood of the fediverse – and a lot of them are queer, trans, and non-binary. Moderation is much more challenging in a decentralized environment, and Mastodon’s moderation functionality is much weaker than is typically found on forums or Facebook, but thanks to the huge amount of effort by (and I cannot stress this enough) unpaid volunteers, some Mastodon sites are so well-moderated that people describe it as a significantly better environment than Twitter. On the other hand, moderators can also be the targets of abuse; in Can Mastodon be a Twitter Refuge for Marginalized Groups, Marcia X describes the harassment campaign— including stalkers, bots, and denial of service attacks – that targeted playvicious.social, leading to the instance shutting down because “our safety was starting to become a real risk and also our mental health for that matter.”

The fediverse is a lot bigger than just Mastodon!

Even though Mastodon has gotten by far the most publicity, it’s only one part of the fediverse. Here’s just a few of the many queer, trans, and non-binary contributors making contributions to other branches as well.

• Daniel Supernault, who’s lead developer on Instagram alternative Pixelfed, one of the fediverse’s most successful offerings, and also started the incredibly valuable FediDB and fediverse.info sites
• Christine Lemmer-Webber, who along with the team at Spritely Institute is developing Spritely Goblins, a distributed object programming environment with time travel debugging and a capability-based model that addresses some of ActivityPub’s biggest weaknesses.
• Kainoa, who’s lead developer on Calckey (a fork of Misskey), which has substantial additional functionality beyond Mastodon as well as a much more vibrant user interface
• Kaity A, who’s lead developer of Hajkey (a fork of Misskey), and along with Ada is admin of LGBTQ+-friendly instances blahaj.zone and lemmy.blahaj.zone.
• The developers of GoToSocial, who are creating a lightweight, customizable, and safety-focused entryway into the Fediverse.
• alyaza, Gaywallet and the other moderators of beehaw.org, who are are using Lemmy link-aggregation software to create a community that “cultivates a sense of real belonging to something” and hosts a very active LGBTQ+ community.
• Hariette, who’s helping to push the Threadiverse to the moon by creating Artemis, a feature-rich, fast, and stunning app for kbin and Lemmy entering beta testing later this month.

Looking forward

https://fedipact.online/, created by trans enby girl lesbian gender terrorist vantablack
As always, it’s interesting times in the fediverse. As Rochko said, it grows in waves. Millions of people created Mastodon accounts late last year in the wake of Twitter’s acquisition by a transphobic, racist, techbro. Some of them liked it enough that they stayed around; quite a few of them are queer, trans, and non-binary – including George Takei, who with over 386,000 followers may well be the most-followed person in the fediverse!

We’re in the middle of another wave right now, with fed-up redditors looking for alternatives in the wake of Reddit’s decision to shutting down third-party apps and ham-fisted response to the protests checking out kbin (an interesting hybrid between Reddit and Twitter) and the aforementioned Lemmy – including people from big trans subreddits which are a critical source of support and knowledge for so many people.

And we’re going to continue to see new waves, because as always, queer, trans, and non-binary people are under siege on other social network. Twitter’s now saying “cis is a slur” and threatening to turn off blocking functionality. Facebook’s parent company Meta is introducing a Twitter competitor then again Anti-Trans Hate Is Absolutely Rampant on Facebook, Transgender Facebook is content dominated by right-wing sources, and Facebook and Instagram parent company Meta’s Nudity Policies Discriminate Against Trans People (as they have for years). So people will keep looking for alternatives.

Speaking of Meta’s Twitter competitor, it’s reportedly going to be compatible with Mastodon, which is another reason it’s such interesting times in the fediverse. As Anti-Meta Fedi Pact creator vantablack says in Why Block Meta?,

try being trans and on facebook, having a list of common suicide methods sent to you by a bigot, and reporting it. they’ll do goddamn nothing. a real, personal, and depressingly common example

Opinions are mixed in the fediverse about how to react to Meta’s potential arrival, but it’s not surprising a lot of trans, queer, and non-binary people don’t want them here. Of course, we’re not the only ones who doesn’t want Meta here; hundreds of instances have already signed the Anti-Meta Fedi Pact vantablack created just a week ago. In FediPact is an Organized Effort to Block Meta’s ActivityPub Platform, vantablack says

I will do everything I can to stop them from burning down the beautiful community we’ve spent over seven years cultivating here.

And she’s clearly not the only one who sees it that way. Still it’s very much in keeping with the fediverse’s history that many of the initial signers of the FediPact are from trans-, queer-, and LGBTQIA2S+-focused instances.

Of course, opinions also differ within queer, trans, and non-binary communities as to how best to respond to Meta’s arrival. As with so many other topics when straight people say “what does ‘the LGBTQ+ community’ think of this issue,” the answer is “it’s complex.” We’re here, we’re queer, fuck Facebook (or whatever they’re calling themselves these days) has more — including a couple paragraphs for allies advocating for working with Meta that are worth repeating here:

It’s a great opportunity to show solidarity. One good starting point is to complement sharing your own opinion with taking the time to listen to, understand, and fairly represent the more marginalized voices who are a lot less likely to be heard – and engage with their criticisms instead of dismissing them. This is especially important for instance admins who want their instances to be seen as LGBTQIA2S+-friendly, employees of surveillance capitalism companies, and cis and/or straight allies with influence in the fediverse.

And allies at surveillance capitalism companies, or instance admins who are allies and have queer and trans moderators, please please please avoid the temptation to rely on your LGBTQIA2S+ colleagues to do the all work or ask them to speak for their entire communities!

One way or another, Meta’s potential arrival is likely to lead to big changes in the fediverse. In chaos there is opportunity! discusses a positive outcome, where resistance to Meta’s arrival catalyzes needed changes in the fediverse. If that happens, we may well see another burst of queer-led community innovation, this time more diverse in other dimensions as well. Perhaps the marginalized people who make key contributions will also get some recognition and more access to jobs and funding. Hey, it’s Pride, might as well be optimistic.

One way or another though, queer, trans, and non-binary people in the fediverse are going to play a big role in shaping the future. Let’s take a moment to appreciate how different this is from the situation on any of the the big commercial social networks! And while we’re at it, let’s also take a moment to appreciate all the queer, trans, and non-binary who have helped create Mastodon and the fediverse as they are today.

Happy Pride!

Notes

1 “Instances” is the term used for different sites that run Mastodon or compativle software. Danielle Navarro’s Everything I know about Mastodon is a detailed introduction to Mastodon; while aimed at data scientists, it’s useful for everybody.

2 Both of the latest attempts to streamline onboarding result in new queer and trans people looking checking out Mastodon signing up by default on the flagship node mastodon.social instead of any of the many thriving LGBTQ+-focused instances. It’s almost like they don’t want queer and trans people to find their community!

3 If you’re thinking that mainline Mastodon’s refusal to support this valuable anti-harassment functionality doesn’t align with the stated values of being a platform with less harassment than Twitter … you’re not the only one. Does Mastodon really prioritize stopping harassment? has several other examples.
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Jon Pincus is the founder of the Nexus of Privacy newsletter, author of Mastodon: a partial history, and a software engineer / entrepreneur / strategist and activist who focuses on justice, equity, diversity, inclusion, and intersectionality.

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